The parts of adulthood nobody gave us a manual for.
For capable women who learned how to do everything right and are still wondering why being a person feels this complicated.
Where do you want to start? ↓C:\> founding seats are open
Choose your rabbit hole. Your seat is waiting.
Every Field Guide and the Main Character Reboot opens the door to the private Adultland community.
Founding members keep their seat for life. No monthly fee.
I’m only opening a limited number of founding seats. Once they’re filled, new members will get 30 days inside Adultland with their purchase, then can stay for $37/month.
D:\PROGRAMS
Where do you want to start?
free
The Audit
01 · if you’re curious
The Alice Audit
Ten questions, about five minutes. Find out how you tend to move through Adultland, what trips you up, and what you’re surprisingly good at.
Free
take the audit →
02 · if you’re a reader
The Field Guides
Three illustrated books, one each for the Alchemist, the Cartographer and the Cultivator. Start with the one that sounds like you, or take the whole shelf.
$27 each · $67 for all three
see the guides →
03 · if you’re ready
The Main Character Reboot
14 days, about 10 minutes a day, of catching the rushing, overthinking, fixing and autopilot while you still have a choice.
$47, one payment
see the reboot →not sure which patterns you’re running? take the free scan
a peek inside
And this is what it looks like
The private community that comes with every Field Guide and the Reboot.
Does anyone else geek out over music?
I have a background in music, so it might just be me, but I really think it’s dopamine seeking. I just spent half…
I just deleted over 30,000 emails, some as old as 8 years. I’ve wanted to do that for a very long time.
I went through some of my old books that I would not read again and put them in a bag to put in my car so I…
The Laundry EpisodeI had no idea there were so many little things I’d been doing wrong…
Found in Translation: The Adultland Dictionary
A Small Spell for Big Feelings
There’s a phrase that echoes through my house like a rabbit hole I actually want to fall down…
Part 1 · Notice
Part 2 · Interrupt
swipe →
about_cat.exe
Hi, I’m Cat.
I tried really hard to do adulthood exactly how I thought I was supposed to. I went to college, got married, had three babies, built the house, and spent more than a decade working my way from data entry all the way to COO.
Then I started researching ADHD for one of my sons and accidentally found myself.
The more I read, the more I kept thinking, wait… I do that... and that... definitely that... Was I really not the only person doing all these weirdly specific, slightly chaotic things I’d spent my whole life thinking were just… me?
I was diagnosed with ADHD at 29. Autism came later. And for the first time, I started wondering how much of who I thought I was was actually me… and how much was a lifetime of getting really good at being who I thought I was supposed to be.
That question eventually got bigger than ADHD.
I started questioning the rules I’d followed, the things I’d believed about myself, and why I could handle so much of life while still feeling like I needed someone else to hand me the instructions.
That’s the rabbit hole that eventually became Alice in Adultland.
read the whole story →You’re not here because you’re incapable.
You’re here because being capable hasn’t made any of this magically easier.
Alice in Adultland is my corner of the internet for the parts of grown-up life nobody bothered to explain. Marriage. Motherhood. Friendship. Faith. Your brain. Your house. Having a personality outside your to-do list.
I’m practicing this too. I just built a place where we can practice it together.